Mavyn
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Thank you for changing it.
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missmelis
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morgankohl wrote:You do realize that when he said "tent", he didn't mean "large", right? He was merely referring to the fact that they fit weird on a LOT of women. They "tent" out at the bottom.
I just want to second that... I really doubt it was Narfcake's intention to insult anyone. Well, okay, maybe Anvil as a company, but certainly not any individual members of the shirt.woot community. He may have chosen his words wrong, but I can say with near certainty that he's not a sizeist jerk.
The goodness of the true pun is in the direct ratio of its intolerability. - Edgar Allan Poe
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inkycatz
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aerc712 wrote:I was agreeing with the original response that the description of the shirts as tents is a darn poor choice of words. It's been said a few times that while all of this discussion about the changes is going on, people need to watch their phrasing because it is quite easy to use an example/description to make your point that is actually hurtful. While that may not be the intention (I know narfcake's comment was directed more at woot, but it still stings when you like the new "tent size" shirts) that's how it can come across.
Yeah, it's just another example of 'let's all be sensitive to each other and how we word things'.
Also, let's not all jump to the side of presuming everyone is deliberately trying to be hurtful. Text, it's hard!

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I believe that perhaps "obnoxious" needs to be taken out of the conversation here, on all sides, as it's maaaaaybe getting a little too personal. Every person is responsible for his or her own words and level of communication/sharing on the internet. However, that does not deny the difficulty of communication and interpretation in this medium, as we none of us have magical empathic abilities here and know what another person truly means, unless we assume... or unless we ask.
Language has been clarified to a large extent within the thread and it seems rather clear that no one meant to convey any snark or ill intent with their choices of words. If people have apologized to each other already, it seems as though it may be ungenerous for everyone involved to continue to pick at what all seem to be good faith efforts at communication. It may perhaps be best to leave it at that, if misunderstanding cannot be politely addressed or put aside?
I dunno. I'm not too good at this wordy taptalk braintouch grokking thing, either. I do like t-shirts, though.
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