hcschmidt wrote:I love rainbows as well, and try to wear my fat unicorn and shelf life shirt proudly. But it is hard not to feel a bit like people are going to judge you for it. Why did they have to take my rainbow!? It makes me want to run a "Keeping the rainbow straight" initiative lol. But I still really want this shirt no matter what anyone else thinks of me.
Here's my (extremely rare, thus collectable?) serious comment:
when I was a child growing up in (variously) Toronto, LA, Princeton, racism was part of the background (to be generous, WEans). Having a friend of colour included an awareness of that distinction. Now, in polyglot Toronto, my children (21 & 16) have friends who are just their friends, just people; and racism, though far from gone (denigrating "the other" is a part of being human), has receded much further, at least for most of their generation here.
Homophobia is a hydra...or maybe even a hydra humping another hydra. It encompasses fear of
C) being homosexual;
D) being perceived to be homosexual.
It is this last that is most insidious.
So if you like this shirt - for whatever reason - yet are leery of wearing for fear being thought queer...you are homophobic and are perpetuating homophobia, and you cannot rationalize your way out of that.
What you CAN do is grow a pair, and wear the shirt. Wear it because you like the shirt, and are unafraid. Wear it, remembering another recent shirt, "Alas, haters", which I purchased both for myself and my gay brother. Around a sketch of Shakespeare, it reads: Those who hate, shall hate henceforth.
You can't fix those people; but you can help them, and the world, by not giving in to their hatred.